Hello, and happy Monday.
First a quote: “Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left of you.” – Katie Reed
Frequent travelers know the airline instruction well: in the event of cabin pressure changes, place your own oxygen mask on first before helping others. At first, it may sound selfish; but, in reality, it is one of the most selfless acts you can take. If you’re unable to breathe, you can’t help anyone else.
The same principle applies in life and leadership.
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Parents running on empty aren’t fully present for their children.
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Drowsy drivers pose a threat to themselves and others.
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Professional drivers and airline crews are regulated, by law, to only work a limited number of hours because fatigue isn’t just unhealthy—it’s dangerous.
And yet, here’s the paradox: the very times we most need to be our “best selves”—as a spouse, parent, or leader—are often when exhaustion, stress, or distraction causes us to show up at our worst. I know I’ve seen it in my own marriage, parenting, and leadership. Perhaps you have too.
As leaders, it’s during conflict, pressure, and change that others need us to be our “best selves.” Ironically, those are also the times we’re most likely to be depleted. That’s when self-care matters most. Putting on your own oxygen mask is not indulgence—it’s preparation.
Since we’re all wired differently, self-care will look different for each of us. Here are some simple practices that have worked for me, and for many of my coaching clients:
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Move your body. If the gym feels impossible, take a short walk.
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Breathe and be present. Meditation, prayer, or mindfulness can reset your focus.
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Channel your energy. Play a sport, work with your hands, or find a healthy outlet for stress.
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Step away. A vacation is ideal, but even a half-day break can work wonders.
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Feed your mind and spirit. Read, listen to music, or enjoy a sunrise on a regular basis.
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Connect with nature. Sit by water, take in a sunset, or simply look up at the stars.
The bottom line: you can’t pour from an empty cup. Refueling isn’t a luxury—it’s a leadership responsibility.
So, let me ask: What do you do to recharge, refresh, and refocus so you can be your best when it matters most?
I’d love to hear your ideas and share them with others.
Bonus quotes below.
How will you live, love, or lead, differently or better, this week?
Sincerely,
Bryan Yager
“Expanding Your Capacity for Success”
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Bonus Quotes:
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“You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” – Unknown
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“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” – Anne Lamott
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“An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly.” – Unknown
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“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow.” – Eleanor Brown
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“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.” – Mandy Hale
